Thursday Night:

Wrapped up the Sleazy-Sixty seminar. Unfortunately, halfway through Sleazy's talk, Sixty got ill, so he didn't end up going out. I decided to take Sleazy to some hipster dance nights (after a quick stop to re-stock on the Sleaze's fruit supply). I let the seminar attendees know where we were going, but everyone was pretty much just tandem
soloing.

The first venue was not as good as I'd expected it to be, since all the attention was focused on the Bar Beauty Pageant that was going on, and the hottest girls were basically the contestants.

Cliff's List has published an article I've written on an alternative to traditional community winging I call "tandem soloing".

It's the minimalist winging, for the minimalist seducer ;).

But to be less slogany, tandem soloing is when two guys go out together, but avoid working the same groups of girls, and when they do, to simply take a divide and conquer approach instead of trying to pump each other up and all that.

One of the worst possible ways to ruin your night is to work with a less experienced guy who is tanking your interactions, so tandem soloing is a way to buffer against that.

You can view the article here.

 
A lot of guys get into pickup because there is something missing in their skillsets with women, or things they want to be able to do with girls but don't know how. Improving as a seducer takes a good deal of time, and requires accumulating a lots of experience. A big part of this growth is shedding a lot of the misconceptions a guy has about himself and about women, and replacing them with more productive mindsets.

 
There are definitely some mindsets out there that are a bit tacky and even needy, such as "approach as many girls as possible", "collect every number you can", "try to makeout with every girl you can", and even "lay as many girls as possible regardless of whether you actually like them". This common prescriptive advice for beginners is also stuff that guys who become skilled come to disdain.
 
Frankly, once a guy is able to approach any girl he wants, get numbers with ease, kiss girls quickly, and lay girls regularly, such mindsets seem really silly. Because at that point, they are, since the person possessing those skills don't actually learn anything from the mindsets any longer.
 
The distinction between mindsets for guys who want to get experience in a certain area, and for guys who are skilled in that area and just want to enjoy themselves is unappreciated.
 

TheLetter discovered the seduction community as a near virgin on a multi-year dry spell. From those humble beginnings, he has gradually developed into a skilled, practicing seducer. TheLetter is widely respected for his no-bullshit approach to seduction, as well as his ability to give insightful and highly illuminating feedback. He emphasizes a minimalist style, focusing on the understanding fundamentals of seduction and the mindsets and attitudes of a seducer, as opposed to the gimmicky scripts and routines used as filler in most mainstream pickup products.
 
His experiences make him particularly suited to consulting beginners, virgins, near virgins, so called "bAFCs", guys with body image issues, introverted intellectuals and other problem cases on matters of club game, bar game, and social circle game. Through his experiences as the leader of a mid-size city's lair, he has also developed extensive experience guiding the development of guys of varying skill levels and backgrounds.
 
TheLetter is NOT a pickup artist. He is a seducer.